Nigeria women's love a sign of trade by barter.

Couple with the rate of poverty and women being materialistic in our societies, most women seek for money instead of love.

During the 80's women were seeking for love instead of money, but today thing has changed because the new generation of today's women are seeking for men with money instead of love. And because of this, most women end up being unhappy in their marriage life.

I could remember those days when a woman will tell a man that I love u and may looking at her eyes, what you will see is a reflection of a real love with some tears of love dropping from her eyes to prove to you how genuine she is to you. And if you buy her a gift, no matter how small the gift might be, she will be so happy and appreciate it. But today when a woman tells a man that she love him, may looking at her eyes what you will see is a material love. A love fall out of personality. Does it mean that there is no real love any more.

Judging from what is happening in our societies today, one will find out that materialism has become the reality of love more especially in Nigeria or in African societies. Nigeria women have turned to something else. These days women often fall in love out of personality with some of them pretending or hiding their characters just to deceive men. 

At the end, men often turn their wives to be a punching ground because they found out that, what she claimed to be is not what she happens to be. All my life I have been trying to find out if there is a real love with Nigeria women, but pardon my manner.  What I found out is that most Nigerian women often fall in love only with rich men. And this made most guys to seek money or want to get rich by all means. 

Women who claimed to love some rich men turned out to be love out of personality. As a student of international Relations, I came across with some psychological courses and it made it easy for me to study and understand people. And I have read a couple of books about human analyses to understand more about people and women characters. It will be a wast of time if I did not put all these readings into practice to find out the truth. And in other to find the truth, I decided to disguise myself. 

As I planned to travel to Africa, Nigeria. I called a girl who often claims that she loves me. She sent me a couple of list of suits and shoes that I will buy for her because she works in a Bank. I bought all these things which cost me almost 1000 Swiss Frank. But I decided not to give it to her immediately to know if she really love me as she had claimed. When I got to Lagos, I called her and she was excited. When she came to my house in the afternoon, She went to my kitchen and prepared a delicious meal for a lunch. 

 After the lunch meal, she asked me what did I buy for her? I gave her a couple of swiss chocolate as my gift to her. May looking at her eyes, what you will see is a sign of disappointment. Her mood changed immediately. She became angry and asked me is this what you bought for me all the way from swiss? This particular girl, her father is fucking rich and she has a good job. What I don't understand about her is, why she is more interested in gift than in me. I said to her yes this is what I bought for you because I have no money to get you all these things that you asked. Immediatly she said to me that I don't care about her or love her. While in Europe, I bought a 18k Gold to my ex-girlfriend and she rejected the Gold saying that she would have preferred a chocolate from Africa instead of a Gold. While Nigeria women says that she would have preferred a Gold instead of a chocolate to tell you the difference between white girl's and Nigeria girl's.

I took her for a ride for an evening outing, as we were driving, she was still angry and I asked her why are u still not happy? That I have been buying an expensive stuff for you each time I visited home. I said to her come on don't tell me that this relationship is all about material stuffs. And out of anger she replied with a bad tone don't tell me that this relationship is all about sex? I said wow, in my mind I know that this relationship is over because this is not what I'm looking for but she did not know about this. 

I did not touch her for the whole weekend that she stayed in my house to prove to her that men can live without sex. And that sex is not love, and I'm not the type that get impressed with sex or desperate to have sex with a woman. Though from the first day I met her, I know that she is a pretender. But I was trying to know if my mind was telling me is true or not. Women should know that gift is a sign that you remembered her and people should appreciate it no matter how little it might be.

As my quest to find if Nigeria women really fall in love out of personality continues, I went to a Bank. Dressed like an average person, I saw a girl in one of the new generation Bank. I tried to date her and later asked her for her number but she refused. I got her number from the Bank manager because he is my good friend. I sent her a couple of cards, tried to invite her for outing but she never give me a chance.  

I kept on disturbing her with text messages and calls, one day a man called me and warned me that I should stop disturbing his girlfriend. The thing that made me angry was not that he said that I should stop disturbing his girlfriend but he used the world “ That I'm unfit to date the girl” then my mind told me that the girl might have described me to him how I was looking the day I met her in the bank. Which means that had it been that I was wearing some Hugo boss suits or dressed like a rich man, she wouldn't have asked her boyfriend to call me. 

This shows that women fall in love with what they see not what they hear just to tell you that if you are a poor guy in Nigeria, women will never fall in love with you except when they have reached the age of between 32 to 40 years, they will stop looking for rich men and go with any man that is serious to settle down with them because they have lost their chances.

I told the man to meet me somewhere in the next one hour that I would love to meet him. I gave him my house address and asked him to give me his house address too but he refused because he was afraid and told me that he and his girl are traveling. My plans was to send some bad boys after him for using the world “ unfit” to somebody you don't know because I believed that is it only a gold-digger can act like that just to please a woman because she might be  his source of income. And any man who want to marry a woman because of her money or because of her fathers money, to me that man is a lazy man. So guys it is better to do what your mates are doing to get rich than to wait when a women will feed you except that you want to live in a bondage. 

But there is something I really don't understand about women because there is this particular girl that I'm in love, but she does not want to know if I exist or not. I love her to an extent that one day I asked her which kind of car do you want? Name it that I will get it for you but she turned it down. In fact was ready to give her anything she needs in her life for her to be happy to tell you how much I want her in my life but she never for one day ask me anything. Even to meet me or even call me on phone is a problem and this is why I'm crazy about her. I have everything she needs but the reason why she does not want me is what I want to know. Thanks and God bless.